Many of us are reaching out and sharing about feeling anxious, stressed, or even hyper vigilant about the coronavirus, or Covid 19. So, how we can manage our anxieties during this global pandemic? And what can we do to help ourselves and those we care about?

Fight or Flight

First of all, it is important to know that these feelings are reasonable, normal responses to the threats we read about every day in the news and on social media. This kind of vigilance is actually an effective defence mechanism.

Hyper vigilance, like many defence mechanisms, is an often unconscious psychological response that has its beginnings in the amygdala[i], that almond shaped part of the brain that is well known for the part it plays in fear conditioning. We develop defence mechanisms to help us alleviate feelings of anxiety or upset that can arise from harmful or unpleasant stimuli. Defence mechanisms help keep us safe and happy, and protect us against things that are upsetting.

So, as uncomfortable as our feelings of anxiety feelings might be, our nervous system is primarily our friend, it assesses our environment for potential threat and readies us to take action if need be.

The problem is that we have no outlet for our flight or fight responses in this situation and we cannot know exactly how and when the virus will reach our communities. Under these circumstances it is totally understandable that people are trying anything to make themselves feel a bit more secure, and are engaging in behaviour like hoarding food and toilet paper.

So understanding all this, what can we do? How can we manage this period of stress in a healthy way?

Managing our emotions effectively

There are some things that we can do to help protect ourselves and our loved ones, and there are also many things we can do to skilfully manage our emotions. Three ways we can manage our emotions effectively are:

Stay connected

Foster a sense of safety

Unplug – Limit the time you spend on social media and check that your news sources are reliable

Stay connected

The first suggestion is stay connected to people who are feel safe for you! Connecting with others is a really effective antidote for stress. That might sound counter intuitive given the advice we have been repeatedly given to isolate ourselves and avoid other people but the good news is that there is actually plenty of support that does not require in person attendance. You can use skype, zoom or google hangouts to connect with family, friends, and professionals.

Foster a sense of safety

The second suggestion is foster a sense of safety. We may not know much about what the future may hold but we do know quite a bit about how the mind works and emotional regulation. We know that activation of the survival response on a neurological, physiological, biological and emotional level for a prolonged period is not good for us, and could cause us to use old and unhelpful coping mechanisms. Taking action where we can help us feel safe and can help our system to let go of that heightened response. So what healthy coping mechanisms have you got that it might be a good idea to use now?

You can reclaim your sense of safety by consistently identifying small opportunities to shift your focus from danger to safety, this can start to reverse the cycle of self-generated fear. Be aware of positive, supportive, protective things that you can already depend on, such as;

Your friends, family, and community

A routine

Your therapist

A ritual, like lighting a candle or burning some incense


Think about what makes you feel protected and safe? Is there something that you can do to help you feel a bit safer and in control?

If you can shift your attention a number of times a day, it will help to shift you out of survival mode.

In fact, there are lots of tools that will help us to manage our emotions and tolerate any distress we might feel in these difficult times. To help us identify our thinking patterns it is a great idea, to journal. Writing down your thoughts, urges, and reactions can really help us to acknowledge what might be problematic, so we can change it.


If you can make time each day to really let your body calm down, and relax that will really help. Practicing a simple breath meditation, a bit of loving kindness, or body scan meditation will really help relax the body and the mind.  
The benefits of meditation include:

  • a sense of physical and mental relaxation
  • a lower heart rate
  • lower blood pressure
  • calmed fight and flight stress response
  • a greater sense of control of attention
  • greater resilience
  • an increase in positive emotion
  • an increases insight and self-awareness

 Self-regulation is a necessary quality for living a successful and happy life. Getting better equipped with self-regulation tools will mean that we are better able to weather the storms of life without resorting to our addictive behaviours.

Research investigating the impact of  cultivating mindful awareness conducted by Marieke Van Vugt[ii]  has showed that mindfulness practice, even for beginners, leads to improvements in the quality of attention you are able to bring. Being able to be present in the moment can offer significant relief from anxiety about the future, this is good news for all of us who are struggling with not knowing how and when Covid 19 might impact our communities.


Be boundaried

Many people have reported compulsively clicking on articles and reading more and more about the Covid19. Remember that social media is medium that is designed to capture your attention and get you to stay on site.  The way these platforms work, combined with the hyper vigilant way we respond to threat, means that being online can make us feel really ramped up in terms of anxiety. Set some healthy boundaries for yourself, have technology-free time in the day, to relax, talk to friends, draw, or read a book.

Check your news sources

Social Media is also full of the usual slew of incorrect information or ‘fake news’. Facebook and YouTube are working well to combat this kind of misinformation – now when you search covid 19the top results should be from reliable sites such as the World Health Organization (WHO) or the NHS, but this doesn’t mean that many thousands of people are touting conspiracy theories or fake cures online. It is a good idea to stay informed about how best to care for ourselves and our loved ones, but when you do go online to check the news and seek advice, choose your sources wisely. To help with that I will link some reliable sources of information below. The current guidelines for us to follow are:

Stay at home

  • Only go outside for food, health reasons or work (but only if you cannot work from home)
  • If you go out, stay 2 metres (6ft) away from other people at all times
  • Wash your hands as soon as you get home

Do not meet others, even friends or family.

You can spread the virus even if you don’t have symptoms.

You can read more up-to-date information about the guidelines as laid out by the prime minister here., and it will also be listed along with all the other resources at the end of this article. 

An important thing to remember is that finding this stressful is normal! Struggling with difficult or uncomfortable feelings is very much a shared experience at the moment. Anxiety and stress is to be expected, but if we allow those emotions to take over, they are not serving us well. So, be aware of how you are, what resources are available to you, and look after yourself really well.  


[1] Van Vugt et al, Investigating the impact of mindfulness meditation training on working memory: a mathematical modeling approach.2011 Sep;11(3):344-53. doi: 10.3758/s13415-011-0048-8.

Get your information from reputable sources like:

The current guidelines as laid out by the PM